eg. How do you approach an STD test with a new partner?

How do couples deal with their significant other having herpes or a similar contagious STD?

Asked by on September 16, 2013

Do they just let it contract each other and not worry about it? How does the relationship work when someone has an STD?





September 17, 2013 at 8:24 pm

Let me first clarify. People that have HSV, HPV etc are not necessarily promiscuous cheaters who were "stupid" and did not use protection. That is ridiculous to say and people need to get their facts straight. Fact: Even with condom use, there is still enough skin to skin contact to transmit HPV or HSV. Condoms largely protect against bacterial infections and HIV. So even with protection, all it takes is sex with *one* infected person to acquire an STD.

That being said it depends on the couples. For most people in serious relationships, an STD like herpes or HPV is usually not a "deal breaker". Some may continue to use protection or medications to reduce the risk, but I think a lot decide just to risk transmission. An STD like HPV or HSV is not the end of the world, most people have it and will never show symptoms and it won't kill you. So why worry?


M C  

September 17, 2013 at 8:01 pm

I think they practice safe sex which is always the responsible thing to do



September 17, 2013 at 10:51 pm

Like Kellyz said, “HPV is usually not a “deal breaker””. My current girlfriend got an HPV but I don’t care. She means the world to me and no stupid virus could ever stop the way I feel about her!!!

Our relationship is put to a HARD test. We practice safe sex all the time and get checked out very often too. If she happends to break out, we just put our urges on check and wait till she gets better.



September 27, 2013 at 8:13 pm

First off there are a couple issues with herpes or any STD and that is that someone has been unfaithful and also stupid to not use protection.

If someone has herpes you need to be practicing safe sex because you really can’t tell if you are having an outbreak or whatever.

It is also possible that one partner has it and the other has a resistance to it and doesn’t contract it, but both partners need to be tested and practice safe sex always.

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