eg. What are ways to avoid getting all types of STD?

Is it wrong to insist on having STD test on every boyfriend I have?

Asked by on October 1, 2013

Is it wrong just to be sure? I mean I just wanna have that peace in my mind. I had lost one of the closest people in my life to an STD and ever since then I’m super cautious about it. I’m old fashioned I still live by the rule no sex until marriage but do guys get upset if a girl asks them to get tested? And she’s willing to get tested too?

3

Answers


9

jay_jay

September 2, 2013 at 2:39 am

Ask EVERY guy you may have sex with to get tested. How about this straight from the mouth of a doctor. "There is no way of telling if a male has HPV he is just the carrier" It will not show up in a std test unless the HPV he has is a strain that gives genital warts. urine tests are cheap for the company and are garbage. Not all blood tests show anything. Some of those are garbage as well. mouth swabs?? really? We aren't checking for drugs. Culture tests are the best!!! and of course the most expensive because they are accurate! Had i known i wouldn't have caught herpes and hpv. Blood and urine test came back negative for the guy. I had sex with him...finally without a condom because we were to be together. After i had sex with him i got tested AGAIN. Everything came back negative. I felt peace of mind. ONLY to find out after i felt awful stinging after i would urinate a month later. I checked down there in the mirror to see 3 herpes sores. I was devastated. I wanted to die. I cried for a whole month straight and loss 10lbs. It's not worth it!!! I don't care how much attitude they give you. How much in the moment you are. You STOP and think that this is with you forever!!! It will never go away. I feel like an outcast. Im very beautiful and every time a guy looks at me i say to myself....if he only knew. I will never date again and if i do it will have to be on a herpes dating website. I am too ashamed of myself to even do that. And yes i admit. I was one that used to make herpes joke. You live by a good rule. I did so myself. I waited until i was 24 to have sex for the first time. And caught two std's at the same time. Don't let it happen to you!

9

Akilah  

September 2, 2013 at 12:13 am

No Any guy who is not willing to be tested is not a guy you want to be with. If they guy your with respects you and you ask they to they would be willing to get one. It is your right to know if any potential sexual partners have any STDs, And if they dont want to get tested and dont have proof of being tested in the past (if they are virgins or something) then dont sleep with them, because there has been cases of people (guys and girls) lying to people that they have aids or hiv or any other STD Which is a crime.

Never have sex with someone not willing to tell you their history of STDs or not willing to to get tested for your safety and comfort. Like i said. It is your right to know if your sexual partner has STDs before you even have sex with them.

5

asodka  

September 2, 2013 at 6:44 pm

It is not wrong at all. However, you need to be tactful about it. Don’t just tell the guy from the first date that you would want him to have an STD test. Build the relationship and then explain to him about your relative who you lost because of STD. But don’t wait too long to raise this issue. You don’t want to have a strong relationship here both of you trust each other and then you ask him to have STD test. Choose the right time and tell him that you need his help on this. If he really loves you and care about you he will not hesitate to do anything for you.

You have my total respect for choosing to stay virgin until after marriage. I am staying virgin until I find my girl too.

Please signup or login to answer this question.