eg. How do you approach an STD test with a new partner?

What if either I or my girlfriend has an STD?

Asked by on November 20, 2013

I’m planning on going and getting us both checked out for STDs, because neither of us have been checked out. Both of us have had sex before, and I’m afraid that when the tests come back one of us is going to have an STD… What if I have an STD… What if she leaves me… If she has a bad STD I’m not sure what to do. I’ve never been able to have an enjoyable sexual experience with a condom and she’s on birth control.




Bruce A

July 22, 2009 at 4:28 am

First of all, try to relax. You're worrying too much. You can't change what's going to happen by worrying about it so just try to be patient until the test results come back. If it does come back positive for one or both of you then you'll have plenty to deal with at that point. It all depends on what disease you might have. Most are very treatable or even completely curable. If you're both fortunate enough to be negative on the test you may still want to consider using condoms as a form of birth control. Combined with the pill it makes it over 97% effective at preventing pregnancy. I know you said that it's hard to enjoy sex with a condom. However, there are many different types with many different levels of sensitivity and the more you use them the easier they are to enjoy.

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