eg. How do you approach an STD test with a new partner?

What is the most polite and sensitive way to find out if a potential sex partner has any STD’s?

Asked by on December 14, 2013

Like, if you’re getting it on with someone, but don’t want to take the risk of catching anything. Is there anything better than outright requesting a trip to the STD clinic to get tested?





August 22, 2006 at 1:37 pm



michelle l  

August 22, 2006 at 9:23 am

no you or the person should be practising safe sex like wear a condom



August 22, 2006 at 9:23 am

Ask them about it BEFORE you start “getting it on”. If you know them well enough to be intimate with them, then you know them well enough to ask about their sexual history and potential for diseases, as well as what they use for pregnancy protection…

…and then, make sure you use a condom anyway…unless you’ve been together exclusively and monogamously for at least 6 months…

Of course, then you have to decide if you can believe what they say…some people won’t admit to having a disease if they know they do, others may lie about having been tested when they have not…

Other than seeing paper proof, from a clinic or doctor, and knowing that person hasn’t had any other parter’s since the test was done…it’s all a gamble…



August 22, 2006 at 9:24 am

maybe say that you are going to get tested and tell him/her that it would make you feel a lot better if he came and if s/he says no then tell him/her that you wont sleep with him/her



August 22, 2006 at 9:40 am

You can tell the person you really care for him/her and would like to take it to the next level, but for both of your sake you would feel better if you are both tested for STD’s. Suggest going to a clinic together so mutual support.



August 22, 2006 at 9:52 am

just use a condom.



August 22, 2006 at 11:11 am

first, use a condom anyway, cos u can never be sure if that person is telling u the truth no matter how polite u ask him. When ur relationship gets more serious it’s not a bad idea for both of you to get tested for STD’s

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